One way I’ve heard it explained is that it’s not necessarily about sex at all. It’s often more about the power dynamics, the role play, things like that.
However, I personally have no experience with any of that, so would anyone who is more involved care to field this one?
I had an anon ask me a very similar question a few years back. Here’s what I told them.
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One thought on “Anonymous asked; I’m ace (and libido-less) but the whole aces with kinks/fetishes thing has always been hard for me to wrap my brain around. Is it just a sex drive/libido thing? Is it more of a fascination/appreciation? I’d enjoy a topic on that so I could learn and better support my fellow aces!”