So, I think I might actually start a secondary blog about some of the things that have been getting discussed this weekend. I think it’s a topic worth being openly talked about, and I think it would be good to have a space specifically for that, so that people can stop worrying if what they’re talking about is appropriate and just say what they have to say.
(I also think it would be good to get the conversation off my main blog, because while I find it interesting, I’m sure it’s making a number of my followers uncomfortable.)
A couple of thoughts:
- For aces, by aces, about aces.
- Topics would definitely include masturbation/sex toys, including reviews/how-tos.
- Additional topics can potentially include BDSM gear, partnered activities, talking about porn/erotic materials, and general sexual health/sex ed/anatomy, etc. Basically anything ace people are curious about or want to discuss, but don’t feel comfortable doing it in regular ace circles. Any other topics that should be explicitly called out?
- Matter of fact and open, with a sense of “Yes, this is normal, yes, it’s okay to feel like that, it’s okay to do this” in most answers. Non-judgmental and inclusive (at least inclusive of ace-ID’d people).
- Clinical where it needs to be, fun where it needs to be.
- Deliberately not wankfodder. This isn’t Letters to Penthouse.
- Open to questions from non-ace people about ace people, within limits. This will attempt to be a safe space for aces (at least as much as it can be on this site), so anyone disrespectful, etc., will be shown the door.
- Anon submissions/asks would be on. 18+
- Toy pictures allowed (including anatomically accurate models), but images of toy usage/porn not allowed (including pornographic images on packaging). Maybe use another toy as a demonstration stand in?
- Maybe a discussion prompt once in a while?
- I would probably need co-moderators. Any volunteers?
A couple of concerns:
- As I’ve learned from my “An Asexual’s Guide To …” series, any time someone talks about topics like this, you will get a lot of non-ace people wandering by and offering their, um, “thoughts”.
- I’d like it to be findable by aces who are interested in it, but I don’t want to be intrusive to those who are not. Are there good ways to do this?
So there it is. Thoughts?
I’d probably read it. I might participate, depending on which topics and how far the inclusivity goes. (When it comes to conversations about sex, I always feel like I’m being Too Weird and making people uncomfortable, even in places with relatively high Weird levels. The only place I didn’t feel like I was being intrusive was Ace Fet, which vanished off the face of the Internet a couple years ago without a trace.)
Tags:
#sexuality and lack thereof #reply via reblog #asexuality
Brinens and Things - Tumblr Mirror 
One thought on “”