This is the second quiz from Fetish and You chapter 3.
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Let’s look at some of the thoughts of an evolved fetishist. How many of these do you believe right now? How many of them would you like to adapt as your own?Fetish Quiz #2 – An Evolved Fetishist’s Perception:
1. My fetish means that I have “out of the box” proclivities.
2. My fetish is a little quirky, but it’s just one part of my sexuality.
3. My fetish is sexually based. The only person who ever has to know is my partner. Even, then, disclosure is solely my choice.
4. I’m a good person based upon my behaviors, interactions and values. Fetish has no bearing on my character.
5. I accept that I have a fetish.
6. I am respectful of the fact that my partner or future partner may not initially understand my fetish. I can make a mindful decision about whether or not I want to tell my partner about my fetish.
7. My thoughts can never hurt anyone. I’m lucky to have something to think about that reliably helps me to orgasm.
8. I don’t believe I’ll be judged based on my fetish. By accepting myself, I can use my energy to be the best person I can be.
9. The more I learn, the more I know that I’m okay.
10. I’m in control of my fetish. It doesn’t control me. I incorporate fetish into my life in a safe, sane, balanced way.How to Score
How many of the modified statements did you agree with? If you agreed even once, you have an open mind. It’s my hope that by the end of this book, you’ll not only agree with every statement but that you will be living every statement.My response:
I agreed with 1*, 4*, 9 and 10*. I rewote them in my diary as:
1. My fetish makes me unique, and that’s OK.
4. I can’t help what turns me on. I’m a good person because I have morals.
9. The more I learn, the better I feel about it. Eventually I’ll be OK with it.
10. I can incorporate my fetish in my life in a balanced, healthy way. I can learn what’s appropriate and how to fit my fetish in.* shaky belief, falls apart when I’m upset
…is it just me, or does this list conflate a healthy fetish with an unimportant fetish?
#2 and #3 are views that get imposed on me as part of the price of being a Respectable Member of the LGBT+ Community, not goals I aim for myself. I guess #6 could work for some people, but I can’t have a sexual* partner and not tell them about my fetish; what are we even doing sex-wise if not that?
(#1 evokes the stereotype of kinky people being sexually ~adventurous~, but to be fair I suspect she didn’t mean it that way.)
*I’m guessing from context that this is supposed to be the case.
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#reply via reblog #sexuality and lack thereof #I don’t fit the narrative of #”your sexual-attraction patterns are an Integral Part of Your Identity but everything else sexual is a minor sideshow” #(not either half) #but I’ve seen enough to be scared of what will happen if I don’t *pretend* that I do
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