sexuality and lack thereof

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asexualactivities:

Working on this Want/Will/Won’t/Curious list thing and I’m realizing that it’s complicated and that I might need something as complex as tax software to get it all set up right.

  • Did you or your partner own a penis on January 1, 2020?
  • Please list the areas where you do NOT want to be massaged (Check all that apply).
  • Do you currently own a rope?  Owning a rope may make you eligible to participate in certain activities.

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at this point you should just make your own computerized sex toys with an arduino, some gumption, and silicon molds of various bodily appendages

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{{OP by averyterrible}}

 

ms-demeanor:

the-real-numbers:

ms-demeanor:

averyterrible:

e2bbf5eb48cbb448f2dacc41c9c5dc5152e7534d

i wish you the best of luck in your dildosmithery

wholeheartedly consigned

Fortunately, Arduino’s pretty easy to pick up, even if you don’t know how to code. There’s a lot of learn to code kits with Arduino, and a massive DIY community with lots of forums.

Tutorials

If you feel more comfortable with a pc-like interface with a lot of capabilities, a raspberry pi (version 3 B+ works just fine for most purposes).

https://projects.raspberrypi.org/en/projects/raspberry-pi-getting-started

If you’re itching for something cheap and small that can connect to the internet (say, for lots of little wirelessly controlled toys talking to a local device your private internet), there are wifi enabled Arduino boards like the WeMos D1 Mini and Adafruit Featherwing HUZZAH ESP32 boards. The esp32 is a little computer chip that does wifi, so as long as it’s on board or can be added on, you’ve got wireless connectivity. There’s lots of sample sketches for communicating with local devices.

LOLIN D1 mini — WEMOS documentation

Seems like most of these projects require motors, so here’s an introduction to the electronics

DC Motor Control with an Arduino – Tutorial

Here’s another lil tutorial on motors

Arduino – DC Motor – Tutorialspoint

Oh! Also here’s something super important. Electronics safety!

Electronics Safety Rules – dummies

There’s a lot of potential for Arduino and raspberry pis in this category. You can make tasers, locks, pistons, pumps, eye trackers, muscle sensors, screens, twitter api based controls, local wired and wireless controls, screens, and maybe more. Actually, if you search for DIY Arduino electronic sex toy stuff, you can find a lot of interesting boards and existing projects to copy.

I know that one of the relatively easy to make projects is a buttplug that measures orgasm intensity but I believe it uses a 3D printed casing and this is your reminder that 3D printed materials are nearly impossible to properly sanitize so mold a hollow core plug out of silicone or make sure to use a condom (which, because of the composition and texture of 3d print plastic you’d probably want to do anyway).

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#anything that makes me laugh this much deserves a reblog #(”i have the gumption‚ at least. like icarus‚ when he did that thing”) #sexuality and lack thereof #nsfw text #the more you know

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brazenautomaton:

hey for those of you who liked the smut-theory blog you may want to go check out and spread this link right here: https://archiveofourown.org/works/25394464

I wonder what it contains

I wonder if someone will help me come up with a better summary

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#hell yeah!! #storytime #story ideas I will never write #recs #sexuality and lack thereof #today (well‚ yesterday) in reasons I never unfollow a blog for inactivity alone #(note: these are not mere crossposts‚ but revised and expanded versions)

Asexual Sex Toy Review: Tenga Egg, Asexual Activities Annex

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asexualactivities:

This review was Too Hot For Tumblr™, so here it is, brought back from the dead.

Also, looking for more feedback/thoughts about the way the pictures and video are handled here, as they’re a bit more involved (and graphic, although no actual nudity is involved) than the earlier examples.

I like the three-tier description/filter/original system for the images. I think it fulfils both halves of the dual purpose of content warnings very well: giving [people who don’t want to see it at all] an opportunity to back out, and giving [people who are okay with choosing to see it but don’t want it to take them by surprise] a heads-up.

The descriptions are good both at giving a chance for informed consent and at letting you know what’s going on (if you choose not to look); the filtered images are definitely less in-your-face than the originals, offering both a way to see what’s happening and a way to prepare yourself before moving on to the originals.

I find the tabbed display intuitive and easy to use, though to be fair I’ve only tried it on a laptop and not on mobile.

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#reply via reblog #sexuality and lack thereof #asexuality #The Last Tumblr Apocalypse #nsfw text

Anonymous asked: Hypnosis fetishists say Trance Rights

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{{OP by sigmaleph; note OP’s commentary tag “#look i don’t have anything clever to say but i couldn’t *not* post this one”}}

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#anything that makes me laugh this much deserves a reblog #(I think it helped that I first saw it in the background of a reblog interface) #(which cuts it off at exactly the right point (”tran-”)) #(and so it was only after a couple of minutes that I went and saw the punchline) #((which probably I *should* have seen coming but I did not)) #our roads may be golden or broken or lost #the humour of my people #gender #sexuality and lack thereof #puns

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asexualactivities:

I want to hear more from people who dislike orgasms.  You typically only seem to hear about how wonderful they are, but I want to hear more about the flip side.

Why don’t you like them? How do they make you feel?  Do you think your asexuality plays a part?

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It feels foreign and invasive [link], something intruding into my mind rather than part of me, trying to re-write my desires. The new, stronger form of arousal that leads (or at least *can* lead) up to it is distracting, attention-grabbing in a way I don’t like, and that makes it harder to masturbate in a way that’s *truly* satisfying, truly *mine*.

(That bit seems like it needs a context link, but I’m not sure which one would be best: maybe this one.)

This has only been happening for about 1 – 2.5 years, depending on how you count. I miss when there were fewer pitfalls.

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#oh hey look *another* way my body has deteriorated over the last couple years #(even if most people wouldn’t conceptualise it that way) #sexuality and lack thereof #Possible TMI #I’ve been thinking about whether to maybe answer this for like a week #but the tie-in with my previous post seems to have convinced me #reply via reblog #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see

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transgirlkyloren:

I think if you’re writing porn online in this day and age and you have any sort of audience, even if you say “18+ only”, some teenagers are going to read it

(as well as some older people who for whatever reason don’t have much sexual and romantic experience)

and so part of Doing Porn Ethically is trying to make your porn something that you’d be okay with a very inexperienced person reading and drawing conclusions about sex from. and so some of that is trying to be realistic about the emotions involved with sex, about safer sex practices, about sexual ethics, and about the mechanics of sex and then when for whatever reason you don’t want to be realistic signposting ACTUALLY USING CONDOMS IS A VERY GOOD IDEA AND YOU SHOULD NOT RAPE OR ABUSE PEOPLE AND ALSO COME IS GENERALLY PRODUCED IN MUCH SMALLER QUANTITIES THAN THIS STORY CLAIMS

 

brin-bellway:

(I have a nagging feeling that I’ve misunderstood something here. I will tentatively post this anyway, but I might have gotten something wrong. (Although it’s also possible that the thing I’m wrong about is the sense that I’ve misunderstood something.))

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Hmm. I’m so biased in favour of this that I can’t tell whether or not I actually agree with it on its own merits, rather than agreeing on the grounds of “I personally enjoy porn more when it’s about realistic ethical stuff, and I would like to encourage people to write their porn in a way I prefer”.

(Like…judging from context, this post was likely inspired by a post from yournaturalstate. I dislike yournaturalstate’s work primarily because it’s *unpleasant*, before even getting into any ethical considerations.)

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I’m not sure whether this is a point in favour, or a point against, or a tangent, but it’s something related:

Mind-control porn in particular has problems with people insisting on putting blanket Do Not Try This At Home warnings on *everything*. Even things that are actually perfectly ethical and realistic. Even things that are thinly fictionalised scene logs of sex the author actually had (as an enthusiastically consenting bottom).

Written on the entrance to the largest and most well-known mind-control erotica repository are the words:

“The situations described here are at best impossible or at worst highly immoral in real life. Anyone wishing to try this stuff for real should seek psychological help and/or get a life.” (emphasis original)

(This warning is *not true*. Not in all cases.)

So personally, when I think of porn messing up impressionable teenagers, I think of teenagers being told they have to choose between being ethical (or safe) and satisfying their most deeply held desires. This dilemma is terrible enough when it *actually exists*; we *should not tell people it exists where it does not*, should not inflict that on more people than absolutely necessary.

(I say this as a former impressionable teenager falsely told her sexuality could not be safely fulfilled.)

…now that I’ve written that out, I guess this section is a point in-favour-but-with-reservations, pointing out a possible failure mode of a generally good idea. (And a failure mode the original context in question is particularly prone to, at that.)

(Well, okay, yournaturalstate specifically is not prone to it *enough*. But still, I’ve learned the hard way how easy it is to swing too far the other way.)

 

transgirlkyloren:

I think that noting which things are actually perfectly ethical and realistic is, in fact, part of having your porn be good sex ed. Misinforming people is bad sex ed. 

 

brin-bellway:

An excellent point. I agree.

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prokopetz:

prokopetz:

Today’s aesthetic: inventing an elaborate speculative humanoid biology, complete with millions of years of evolutionary history and an in-depth exploration of the social and political implications of the resulting hereditary features, purely to explain why your setting’s elf-equivalents are especially good at performing one particular sex act that just happens to be your kink.

I love that half the responses to this post are like “I have literally never encountered this phenomenon in my life and require examples immediately”, and the other half are treating it as a personal callout.

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#sexuality and lack thereof #story ideas I will never write