People are talking about April Fools’ Day already, so here is my pledge:
This blog will not create any April Fools’ Day pranks. I may reblog some, but they will be clearly marked with an April Fools’ Day tag so that they can be blocked or avoided. Nothing that originates on this blog will be a prank.
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#co-signed #April Fools #(that’s the tag I’ll use)
So my therapist said something awhile back and it’s really stuck with me.
I was talking about the stupid things I had done in high school. How the stories I wrote were stupid and how all I ever wanted to draw was anime shit (which was stupid) and how immature I could be, etc etc etc.
and she was like “Why are you so determined to beat up on Little Maggie?”
It took me off guard, I was like “what do you mean?”
“Why do you keep saying Little Maggie is stupid? You say she was stupid and immature but wasn’t she just a teenager? Do you not like who you were as a teenager?”
I shrugged and was like “I think teenage me was very creative and was probably just having fun and being a teenager…”
“So why beat up on her and call her stupid and embarrassing?”
“I dunno, because I guess now I’ve learned a lot.”
“But she was young. She didn’t know. I’m just telling you this because if you keep beating up on Little Maggie, you have to remember that she grows up to be you. When you put bruises and scars on Little Maggie, you’re leaving all the healing for Big Maggie. Your insecurity about who you were as a child is going to come through into your adulthood. Be nice to Little Maggie.”
And I’d never really thought of that before? It seems status quo to just… hate who you used to be for not knowing enough, but that’s totally illogical. Of course a younger version of you doesn’t know what you know and can’t act with the wisdom that you act.
And even if Little Maggie was writing silly stories about her friends while ripping off anime and drawing her own “manga” and being immature and goofy, she was having fun, she was being creative, she was enjoying the things she liked and she wasn’t hurting anyone.
She’s part of my past and hating her is hating the foundation of who I eventually became.
Just food for thought.
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#yes this #I have met people who just…live with the belief that their future selves will hate them? #and they just seem to roll with that? #I don’t get that #like I have individual regrets #but in general my feeling towards past selves is #”I’m impressed you were able to do as well as you did on so little information” #and I have hope that my future selves will extend the same goodwill towards me
r u ever sitting in class and suddenly think 1 in every 20 people is lgbtqa+ i wonder who it is n then ur like oh yeah it’s me
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#same #fun with statistics
Person: *says something really sweet*
Me: *reads it over and over for a month*
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#pretty much
So it looks like we’re stuck on this broken site for a while, but could we try to avoid its most broken features? Chat posts and quote posts are really really hard to respond to. And they’re unnecessary. You can basically always put the same content in a text post. Text posts can easily start reblog chains where you can see clearly who said what. Thank you.
(Like I know we’re going to reblog other people’s quote/chat posts sometimes, I’m just saying when we’re making posts from scratch, let’s just use text posts)
Reminder that I have quote posts blocked so I don’t see them unless somebody pings me, and I periodically consider doing the same thing with chat posts, precisely because they’re so damn inconvenient to respond to and I don’t want to be tempted.
I agree.
(I do this naturally, because I post from Diaspora*, which doesn’t offer chat or quote posts.)
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#pretty much #Tumblr: a User’s Guide
People who oppose the use of screens aren’t trying to silence disabled people. The problem is that they aren’t thinking about us at all. When confronted with what smartphones can do for disabled people, anti-screen folks will claim that they are not talking about us. The thing is, when they look at a café and see people using their phones, there is no way to distinguish between the people who use phones as disability aids and people who just happen to find speaking through social media a perfectly adequate or even preferable mode of communication. A false hierarchy is formed, and of course, the ways some disabled people speak is at the bottom of it.
By idealizing inflexible, narrow definitions of communication, we are dehumanizing the people who don’t make eye contact, the people who don’t speak. Social media just gives us more socially acceptable and normalized options for communication. A world where people are “glued to their screens” is a world where I and others can more easily exist, succeed and be happy. Stop telling strangers you pass on the street to “look up.”
Screen Backlash is a Disability Issue
(via digoldenepave)
It also is so hugely helpful for those of us who are too ill to go out and have an active public social life.
(via hermionxjean)
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#(oh right I never actually reblogged this) #(fixing that now) #yes this #that excuse for communication called speech
I’m not sure how broadly-useful this is, but I’ve found a useful way to ‘hack’ acceptance of strange traits/behaviors/identities in other people:
Just think, “There are seven billion of us, I would be much more surprised if nobody was like this.”
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#the wondrous variety of sapient life #yes this
turns out you’re wrong, sherlock holmes. i don’t do any kind of farming or professionally take care of dogs or anything you said. i threw on all this shit to see which and how many wild assumptions you’d make about me from one random glance, like an asshole. and you did. you made so many assumptions about my life just by taking one look, you asshole. here’s an assumption for you: sherlock holmes is a huge jackass
this is exactly what an arthur conan doyle self insert would look like
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#anything that makes me laugh this much deserves a reblog #yes this
I Just Want More Fic Without Having to Write It Myself: A Biography
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#fandom #anything that makes me laugh this much deserves a reblog #also yes #in some way I am drowning in fic but in others things are so hard to find
I have extremely mixed feelings about the language of the US Supreme Court ruling (people who don’t marry are not automatically incomplete lonely people ffs, this is not the 19th century), but I understand why they used the strong language they did.
Marriage rights are not the #1 most important issue in the world, but they are important and I’m really glad they made this ruling.
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#marriage equality #aromanticism #(I know there’s other reason not to marry and some aromantics marry anyway but I still think it belongs in that tag) #home of the brave #yes this
Brinens and Things 