Anonymous asked: please help me- i used to be pretty smart but i’m having so much trouble grasping the concept of diegetic vs non-diegetic bdsm!

tearlessrain:

gfkjldghfd okay first of all I’m sorry for the confusion, if you’re not finding anything on the phrase it’s because I made it up and absolutely nobody but me ever uses it, but I haven’t found a better way to express what I’m trying to say so I keep using it. but now you’ve given me an excuse to ramble on about some shit that is only relevant to me and my deeply inefficient way of talking and by god I’m going to take it.

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SO. the way diegetic and non-diegetic are normally used is to talk about music and sound design in movies/tv shows. in case you aren’t familiar with that concept, here’s a rundown:

diegetic sound is sound that happens within the world of the movie/show and can be acknowledged by the characters, like a song playing on the stereo during a driving scene, or sung on stage in Phantom of the Opera. it’s also most other sounds that happen in a movie, like the sounds of traffic in a city scene, or a thunderclap, or a marching band passing by. or one of the three stock horse sounds they use in every movie with a horse in it even though horses don’t really vocalize much in real life, but that’s beside the point, the horse is supposed to be actually making that noise within the movie’s world and the characters can hear it whinnying.

non-diegetic sound is any sound that doesn’t exist in the world of the movie/show and can’t be perceived by the characters. this includes things like laugh tracks and most soundtrack music. when Duel of Fates plays in Star Wars during the lightsaber fight for dramatic effect, that’s non-diegetic. it exists to the audience, but the characters don’t know their fight is being backed by sick ass music and, sadly, can’t hear it.

the lines can get blurry between the two, you’ve probably seen the film trope where the clearly non-diegetic music in the title sequence fades out to the same music, now diegetic and playing from the character’s car stereo. and then there are things like Phantom of the Opera as mentioned above, where the soundtrack is also part of the plot, but Phantom of the Opera does also have segments of non-diegetic music: the Phantom probably does not have an entire orchestra and some guy with an electric guitar hiding down in his sewer just waiting for someone to break into song, but both of those show up in the songs they sing down there.

now, on to how I apply this to bdsm in fiction.

if I’m referring to diegetic bdsm what I mean is that the bdsm is acknowledged for what it is in-world. the characters themselves are roleplaying whatever scenarios their scenes involve and are operating with knowledge of real life rules/safety practices. if there’s cnc depicted, it will be apparent at some point, usually right away, that both characters actually are fully consenting and it’s all just a planned scene, and you’ll often see on-screen negotiation and aftercare, and elements of the story may involve the kink community wherever the characters are. Love and Leashes is a great example of this, 50 Shades and Bonding are terrible examples of this, but they all feature characters that know they’re doing bdsm and are intentional about it.

if I’m talking about non-diegetic bdsm, I’m referring to a story that portrays certain kinks without the direct acknowledgement that the characters are doing bdsm. this would be something like Captive Prince, or Phantom of the Opera again, or the vast majority of bodice ripper type stories where an innocent woman is kidnapped by a pirate king or something and totally doesn’t want to be ravished but then it turns out he’s so cool and sexy and good at ravishing that she decides she’s into it and becomes his pirate consort or whatever it is that happens at the end of those books. the characters don’t know they’re playing out a cnc or D/s fantasy, and in-universe it’s often straight up noncon or dubcon rather than cnc at all. the thing about entirely non-diegetic bdsm is that it’s almost always Problematic™ in some way if you’re not willing to meet the story where it’s at, but as long as you’re not judging it by the standards of diegetic bdsm, it’s just providing the reader the same thing that a partner in a scene would: the illusion of whatever risk or taboo floats your boat, sometimes to extremes that can’t be replicated in real life due to safety, practicality, physics, the law, vampires not being real, etc. it’s consensual by default because it’s already pretend; the characters are vehicles for the story and not actually people who can be hurt, and the reader chose to pick up the book and is aware that nothing in it is real, so it’s all good.

this difference is where people tend to get hung up in the discourse, from what I’ve observed. which is why I started using this phrasing, because I think it’s very crucial to be able to differentiate which one you’re talking about if you try to have a conversation with someone about the portrayal of bdsm in media. it would also, frankly, be useful for tagging, because sometimes when you’re in the mood for non-diegetic bodice ripper shit you’d call the police over in real life, it can get really annoying to read paragraphs of negotiation and check-ins that break the illusion of the scene and so on, and the opposite can be jarring too.

it’s very possible to blur these together the same way Phantom of the Opera blurs its diegetic and non-diegetic music as well. this leaves you even more open to being misunderstood by people reading in bad faith, but it can also be really fun to play with. @not-poignant writes fantastic fanfic, novels, and original serials on ao3 that pull this off really well, if you’re okay with some dark shit in your fiction I would highly recommend their work. some of it does get really fucking dark in places though, just like. be advised. read the tags and all that.

but yeah, spontaneous writer plug aside, that’s what I mean.

aspec-but-horny:

Wow I like those words ashgfkjvmgk

Would you mind if I used them?

(have been using bdsm(canonical) and bdsm(material) instead as in this narrative acknowledges bdsm as something happening in the story vs this is not bdsm in universe but it is bdsm related and just like, stuff to feed your fantasies, rules and morals do not apply because nobody is trying to portray real situations, these narratives are shallow as they are merely tools.) But I guess both the descriptions have slight differences.

tearlessrain:

oh yeah go nuts lol, it’s just the best way I could come up with to phrase it, I don’t own the words or anything

artpigeons:

Watsonian BDSM vs Doylist BDSM

kinsey3furry300:

Watsonian BDSM is when Irene Adler and Sherlock have a talk about safe words, Doylist BDSM is when Harry Houdini gets an urgent telegram: HOW TO GET OUT OF HANDCUFS STOP NOT A HYPOTHETICAL STOP MISTAKES WERE MADE STOP I’LL ADMIT THR FAIRY PHOTOS WERE FAKE IF YOU GET HERE IN A QUARTER HOUR STOP


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#yes this #sexuality and lack thereof #I’ve been thinking about this sort of thing lately as I try my hand at writing pornography #I like diegetic porn better but have been writing non-diegetic because the setup’s easier #I aspire to write diegetic porn someday #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

rustingbridges:

these days people link to twitter and even in the case that a thread looks interesting I simply cannot read it. 1/11 ok but where are the other ten. there’s nothing on the page that shows them and half of the links 401. I hope people will eventually start posting interesting things on platforms that support sharing


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#yes this #for now it remains possible to circumvent this with third-party interfaces #but someday the last vestiges of Nitter will die and that will be the end of Twitter #Twitter #this probably deserves some warning tag but I am not sure what #amnesia cw? #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

thebreakfastgenie:

Places with signs that are frequently stolen (mile marker 69, Horneytown, etc) should just sell replicas at cost. They could even put them in vending machines. Obviously the thrill of theft is appealing to some people but that would probably decrease if you could just buy one right there and they were therefore easier to acquire. I support people Having them but I also feel for municipalities that have to keep replacing them. This is a win-win and probably costs less than security measures.


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#yes this #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

wizardarchetypes:

wizardarchetypes:

disturbed by how little ppl acknowledge the secondary health risks of vampire bites. if your vampire lover is drinking your blood you MUST be up to date on your tetanus shot. puncture wounds are at especially high risk for tetanus infections. just because your partner was born in 1312 doesn’t mean you have to die like it.

moreover they should be prepping the bite point with an alcohol wipe.

and while I’m at it, I’ve noticed a blithe disregard for health & safety when it comes to blood pacts. can’t believe I have to say this but you should absolutely NOT be cutting your palm open with the pocket knife from your belt holster (??????)

if you’re expecting to be in a blood pact/oath situation please just pick up some sterile finger lancets from the pharmacy. cannot stress this all enough.

Please y’all!! tetanus is NOT caused by rusty metal. It’s a bacteria found damn near everywhere, and wounds infected with saliva are especially high risk for tetanus infections.

it’s also a common misconception that vampire saliva is antiseptic. Vampires spread that myth on purpose. They also CAN cross running water. Make them bathe and brush their teeth!!!!


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#yes this #vampires #illness tw #unsanitary cw #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

argumate:

radio is kind of wild really, the first thing we did after discovering an ethereal field that permeates the universe is infuse it with music.


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#I know right #I reblogged a poem about that a few years back #proud citizen of The Future #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once


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studentofetherium:

hollowboobtheory:

hollowboobtheory:

you never truly appreciate good internet unless you have bad internet

if you have a solid, timely connection that isn’t blinking in and out right now, take a minute to really live in the moment. for me. because mine is currently dogshit

i once lost internet at home for a month. that’s completely changed my stance on physical media and downloads. people are too reliant on streaming. you need DVDs and CDs and mp3s and books and magazines and mkvs and whatever else. you will not always have perfect access to the internet. it’s a good idea to make sure that doesn’t leave you without anything

#my buddy brin has an entire tag about this! #also yeah i couldn’t get my data working on my new free government sim card till this afternoon #and man it was a pain even though everywhere i went had wifi


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#(2023-11-28) #<3 #technically it’s more like half a tag but #yes this #101 Uses for Infrastructureless Computers #disappointed permanent resident of The Future #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

“smart appliances” fuck u i want them dumb as a brick and incidentally as sturdy and enduring


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#yes this #domesticity #101 Uses for Infrastructureless Computers #disappointed permanent resident of The Future #venting cw? #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

maryellencarter:

szczyrkowa-deactivated20230924:

i am totally going to come across as a boomer in this post but as an engineer it’s common sense to not build systems with a single point of failure. and i’m starting to realize that our usage of the smart phone is exactly that. a single point of failure. the calling/texting is the implied function of the smartphone, which is fine. that’s what it’s built for. but nowadays we don’t think to keep a physical map or atlas or gps unit in our car because our phone has google maps. we don’t keep address books anymore because it’s all stored in our contacts. i serve customers who no longer carry a wallet/physical card because it’s all on their phone. this is literally a single point of failure. if you lose or break your phone when you are in a foreign place you are fucking screwed. maybe you’re still screwed even in your home town because so many people have become accustomed to using a smart phone to take them anywhere.

as someone who worked in the cell phone industry for five years: this. your email requires two factor authentication to your phone. setting up a new iphone requires two factor authentication to your old iphone. putting a new phone on your phone number requires two factor authentication to a previously active phone on your account. if you ever lose your phone or if it refuses to wake up one day, god help you because no one in the industry can


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#yes this #one is none‚ folks #disappointed permanent resident of The Future #101 Uses for Infrastructureless Computers #I have specifically arranged my cloud-storage setup to *not* require 2FA #(there *are* multiple layers of encryption involved‚ but–carefully–only with passwords that I’ve memorised) #so that‚ if it came down to it‚ I could bootstrap back into having a full copy of my archives #–complete with version history– #with nothing but my memories and a computer with Internet access #the potential-future mes who just fled a burning home with nothing but pajamas and (bedroom-table) respirator have enough problems already #also‚ check your government services and see if they sell paper maps #Ontario will sell you one for five bucks #I have one in my bug-out bag #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

bisexualbaker:

bisexualbaker:

Why do people keep recommending Dreamwidth as a Tumblr alternative, when Dreamwidth and Tumblr are so different?

To be flat-out honest, it’s because Dreamwidth has so many things that Tumblr users say they want, even if it’s also lacking a lot of features that Tumblr users have come to love:

  • Dreamwidth has incredibly lax content hosting rules. I’d say that it’s slightly more restrictive than AO3, but only just slightly, and only because AO3’s abuse team has been so overwhelmed and over-worked. Otherwise, the hosting policies are pretty similar. You want to go nuts, show nuts? You can do that on Dreamwidth.
  • In fact, Dreamwidth is so serious about “go nuts, show nuts”, it gave up the ability to accept transactions through PayPal in 2009 to protect our ability to do that. (It’s also one reason why Dreamwidth doesn’t have an app: Dreamwidth will never be beholden to Apple’s content rules this way.)
  • Dreamwidth cares about your privacy; it doesn’t sell your data, and barely collects any to begin with. As far as I’m aware, it only collects what it needs to run the site. The owners have also spoken out on behalf of internet privacy many times, and are prepared to put their money where their mouth is.
  • No ads. Ever. Period. They mean it. Dreamwidth is entirely user funded.
  • Posts viewed in reverse chronological order; no algorithm, opt-in or otherwise. No algorithm at all. No “For You” or “Suggested” page. You still entirely create and curate your own experience.
  • The ability to make posts that only your “mutuals”, or even only a specific subset of your “mutuals”, can see. Want to make a post that’s only open to Bonnie, Clyde, Butch, and Cassidy? You can do that! Want to make a post that’s only open to Bonnie and Butch, but Clyde and Cassidy can’t see shit? You can do that, too!
  • The owners have forsworn NFTs and the blockchain in general. Not as big a worry now as it was even a year ago, but still good to know!
  • We are explicitly the customers of Dreamwidth. Dreamwidth wants to make us happy, so any changes they make (and they do make changes) are made with us in mind, and after exploring as many possibilities as they can.
  • Dreamwidth is very transparent about their policies and changes. If you want to know why they’re making a specific change, or keeping or getting rid of a feature, they will tell you. You don’t have to find out ten months later that they’re locked into a contract to keep it for a year (cough cough Tumblr Live cough cough).

So those are some things that Tumblr users would probably love about Dreamwidth.

Another reason Dreamwidth keeps being recommended is that a significant portion of the Age 30+ crowd spent a lot of earlier fandom years on a site known as LiveJournal. Dreamwidth may not be much like Tumblr, but it it started out as a code fork of LiveJournal, so it will be very familiar to anyone who spent any time there. Except better.

Finally, we’re recommending Dreamwidth because some of the things that Tumblr users want are just… not going to happen on the web as it is now. Image hosting is the big one for this. Maybe in the future, the price of data will be much cheaper, and Dreamwidth will be able to host as much as we all want for a pittance that a fraction of the userbase will happily pay for everyone, but right now that’s just not possible.

Everywhere you want to go that hosts a lot of images will either be running lots of ads, selling your data, or both.

Dreamwidth knows how much it costs to host your data, and has budgeted for that. They are hosting within their means, within our means.

Dreamwidth is the closest thing we may ever get to AO3 as a social media platform. One of the co-owners is from, and still in, fandom; she knows our values, because they are also her values. It may as well be the Blogsite Of Our Own.

TL;DR: There is no website that has everything that Tumblr wants and nothing that it hates. Dreamwidth at least has all of the important stuff covered.


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#yes this #I have maintained an outpost on Tumblr‚ but I moved my home base to Dreamwidth after the Purge #and I’m very happy with it #Dreamwidth #The Great Tumblr Apocalypse #recs #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once

etirabys:

A deep cut I incurred on my finger two weeks ago finally closed over, leaving some pink, and I keep looking at it and feeling perplexed over the capability of the human body to… just do that


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#biology #yes this #injury cw #this post was queued because my to-reblog list is too long and I didn’t want to dump it on you all at once