wearemagneton:

brin-bellway replied to your post: Sorry about you dad :S mine is of the camp that you can’t be anything but gay straight or trans, but he’s less vocal about it lately since some “scientific study” recently. But I’d offer my house if it was mine too XD I can imagine it: “G,…

Good: Mom noticed (at least several months before I did) that I’d never shown any sign of having a sexuality.

Bad: She expressed this as “You could be a lesbian for all I know.” Seems to me if someone never shows any sign of a sexuality, your first thought should be ace. If she’d said that, maybe it could’ve gotten me thinking a few months sooner. This probably indicates she thinks asexuals don’t exist.

Odd thing is, I knew asexuals existed since I was thirteen or so. But with the influence of heteronormativity, I misinterpreted platonic stuff as being signs of straightness. I felt a bit jealous of the asexuals whose blogs I read. Unlike them, (I thought) I didn’t have an excuse for reacting to pretty much every sex act I ever heard of with “You do what? Okaayy…” They never really sounded that appealing.

Nor did I ever feel any infatuation towards people. I knew damn well what infatuation felt like. I’d felt it with books, games, cartoons, music: it’s a feature of my neurotype. More experienced (read: romantic) people of said neurotype told me romantic infatuation felt recognisably similar, so clearly that hadn’t happened. I figured I was too sheltered to find a suitable boy.

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