asexuality

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ozymandias271:

transmemesatan:

lennonhead:

asexualeliza:

The Purple-Red Scale measures attraction in two dimensions: who you’re attracted to and how you’re attracted to them. It is designed to replace the Kinsey Scale, created to simplify human sexuality while still allowing for complexity. Plus, I love the idea of going up to a hetero and telling them I’m a Level C5 Gay.

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this is the worst definition of hypersexuality I’ve ever seen oh my god how rude

this is also kind of a bad chart and seems convoluted in a way I can’t fully express

“the opposite sex” yikes

“bonds stronger than friendship” yikes

“sex is the be-all end-all purpose of any relationship” yiiiiiiiiikes

Yeah, the asexuality bloggers I know have been tearing this to shreds.

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comparativelysuperlative:

lauren-m-jankowski:

boomsnapwhist:

raygender:

bi-privilege:

dinosaurs-on-wheels:

how can someone be asexual? i’m glad you asked. obviously i can’t speak for all of us but i for one lost my sexuality in a drunken game of poker against captain jack harkness.

how multisexuals are made: we win our sexuality off the asexuals

us graysexuals have a more nuanced agreement, we get our sexuality back on weekends and on holidays we occasionally borrow someone else’s

sexuality banking

I’m crying! 😂

Fractional reserve sexuality.

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redbeardace:

Some guy on PBS just said that if you sleep next to someone, you’re exposed to more radiation than if you sleep alone.

Being single FTW!

#hmmm I should probably put my Geiger counter in a different room for a more accurate reading then #yes #I have a Geiger counter #several actually #have I mentioned I’m a nerd? #currently reading about 0.09 microsieverts per hour #because people are radioactive apparently #so is that why some people call other people hot?

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Reblog with what you would tell your 13-year-old self in the tags.

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#so you know how you don’t quite trust devout Jews? #(if you haven’t decided you distrust them yet please forgive me) #(you know how terrible we are at remembering *when* things happened) #(and having a functional ultra-long-term memory compiler–while totally awesome and highly recommended–does not make that easier) #(it just gives you an even *wider* span of time in which the thing may have happened) #(anyway) #it doesn’t quite seem *right* that they’re so enthusiastic about Heritage #and you kind of suspect that given half the chance they would force you into their mould #heedless of what bits they would have to carve off of you to make your proverbial peg fit in that hole? #(and denying all the while that they’re carving you) #(because you have the same Heritage so of course you must already fit) #(they’re only making you see it) #well you had the right idea #but the first time around you didn’t apply it broadly enough #you were born to and raised by feminists #and that makes feminism part of your Heritage too #I’m not saying don’t be friends with enthusiastic feminists #the same way you shouldn’t avoid being friends with enthusiastic Jews #but keep them just a little bit distant #just distant enough that they can’t take a whittling knife to your soul #(and hope like hell that the divergent-timeline butterfly doesn’t have you fall in with a *worse* crowd) #so that’s the bad news #here’s some good news #depending on how far you are into 13 you may have heard of asexuality #and you thought it was great and wished you could be like that #well you *wanted* to be like that because you *are* like that #also: there’s this thing called hypno-fetishism #it’s possible for hypnosis to be *sexual* for some people #no don’t worry I’ll wait here while you re-evaluate your entire life #…

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justice-turtle:

so like I have no idea where I’m going with this but

people whose lived experience is close enough to harmful tropes that they feel uncomfortable talking about it

like “you’re not asexual you’re just repressed” well as it happened I was not asexual and I was repressed as hell (I was/am aromantic and had it super thoroughly drilled into me that sexual attraction without romantic attraction… wasn’t really attraction or something? idk every time I try to figure out my upbringing it gets weirder)

or like I have an oc who’s demi (or in one ‘verse he’s demi, AUs man) but he IDed as ace for like twenty years before the “I am now sexually attracted to my life partner” kicked in and so I feel reeeeeally awkward about writing that ‘verse because I have no idea how I’d keep it from being “you just haven’t met the right person yet” without, like, actively stopping the story to write a screed about it ;P

but like does anyone else have this problem? what (if anything) do you do about it? commiserate with me! ;S

Ah, that old double-bind. The one where, for instance, some people don’t have a right person to find, and also who cares if there is a right person they’re still ace for intents and purposes now, but you only have the chance to say one of those things and whichever wrong you correct you’re implicitly condoning the other. It is especially difficult when you personally do happen to fit the narrative.

I look kind of like I fit the first one, since I did formerly ID as repressed,
but I don’t think I actually do fit it. Nevertheless, when I encounter that one (which I almost never do directly; I hang out in pretty ace-friendly spaces) I always tackle the “so what if I am?” aspect over the “I’m not” aspect. I figure I’m more believable on that one, plus the “I’m not” aspect is generally tackled more often.

I do have a narrative that I both disagree with and fit, and that’s “rape
fetishism isn’t an inherent/valid* part of a fetishist’s sexuality;
they’re just into it because Society doesn’t give them any better options. If they were in a culture where consent was an established Thing, the fetish would fall away.”

This is bullshit on multiple levels. It also happened to me. I was rather annoyed when I realised, partly because do you know how hard it is to find consensual hypnosis porn (well, obviously it would have to be difficult or this wouldn’t have happened in the first place) and partly because I resented supporting the pro-narrative argument by existing.

I haven’t tried to respond to that narrative since it happened. Any one thing I say would be undermining the others, and–unlike the repression one–I have no clue where to place my focus.

*In a culture with heavy reliance on “born this way” messages, these two words are treated as interchangeable, which is a big chunk (but not the entirety) of the problem.

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#reply via reblog #asexuality #sexuality and lack thereof #commiseration #consensual porn is like the food of the fairy folk #once you’ve had a taste you can never go back #normal food can’t sustain you anymore; all you can think about when you eat it is how much better the other stuff tasted

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God, I miss Ace Fet.

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#Ace Fet #the one place where I felt #if not *normal* sexuality-wise #at least not any weirder than anyone else #but that was somewhere around a year ago #and ever since it’s been gone #without even an archive to remember it by #I’ve tried lurking in hypnofetish circles #they’re way better than nothing but they don’t *really* *get* it #or rather they get something *different* #people who can distinguish between their drive for sleep and drive for sex fascinate me #but they’re the only people I’ve ever met and I’m *lonely* #there’s no way I’m the only one #seven thousand million human brains out there #(at least a few hundred million of which hang out in English-language Internet communities) #no way am I the only one to have ended up with this particular quirk of brain development #somewhere out there are people who understand #I just don’t know how to find them #sexuality and lack thereof #tag rambles #oh look an original post

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finding-flight:

Okay, but imagine a medieval adventure fantasy where asexuals sell their services to parties who have to travel past sirens/incubi/succubi in order to fulfill their quests.

Imagine young witches and warlocks going through a final wizardry test where they have to square off against every magical creature they’ve ever learned about, and everyone is really confused as to how that one team just strolled past the sirens/incubi/succubi, and also as to why afterwards they high-fived, said “Aced it!” and then laughed for ten minutes straight.

Imagine a villain dousing a hero with a love potion and then unshackling her, expecting mindless devotion, only to have her then stab him and say “I’m aromantic, actually.”

Imagine an incubus carefully choosing a target and ending up on her couch with a tub of ice cream as she assures him that he is really good at his job and he can’t help it that he happened to pick an ace target.

Imagine an ace sailor who has to tie up his companions in the hold and sail the ship by himself whenever they encounter mermaids, and since it’s just him it’s really slow going, and he spends the entire time griping about allosexuals to the mermaids, who in turn gripe about how sick they are of having to target sailors before the sailors target them.

Imagine a love god trying to set up a pair of aro ace soulmates and putting them in increasingly romantic and/or risque situations, only to pull his hair out in frustration as they ignore or fix every situation and just become better and better friends.

Just like, fantasy asexuals, y’all.

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