So…
If Morporkia the lady is the personification of Ankh-Morpork the city,
would you call her ankhthromorporkphic?
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#Discworld #… #…say *that* three times fast
so like I have no idea where I’m going with this but
people whose lived experience is close enough to harmful tropes that they feel uncomfortable talking about it
like “you’re not asexual you’re just repressed” well as it happened I was not asexual and I was repressed as hell (I was/am aromantic and had it super thoroughly drilled into me that sexual attraction without romantic attraction… wasn’t really attraction or something? idk every time I try to figure out my upbringing it gets weirder)
or like I have an oc who’s demi (or in one ‘verse he’s demi, AUs man) but he IDed as ace for like twenty years before the “I am now sexually attracted to my life partner” kicked in and so I feel reeeeeally awkward about writing that ‘verse because I have no idea how I’d keep it from being “you just haven’t met the right person yet” without, like, actively stopping the story to write a screed about it ;P
but like does anyone else have this problem? what (if anything) do you do about it? commiserate with me! ;S
Ah, that old double-bind. The one where, for instance, some people don’t have a right person to find, and also who cares if there is a right person they’re still ace for intents and purposes now, but you only have the chance to say one of those things and whichever wrong you correct you’re implicitly condoning the other. It is especially difficult when you personally do happen to fit the narrative.
I look kind of like I fit the first one, since I did formerly ID as repressed,
but I don’t think I actually do fit it. Nevertheless, when I encounter that one (which I almost never do directly; I hang out in pretty ace-friendly spaces) I always tackle the “so what if I am?” aspect over the “I’m not” aspect. I figure I’m more believable on that one, plus the “I’m not” aspect is generally tackled more often.
I do have a narrative that I both disagree with and fit, and that’s “rape
fetishism isn’t an inherent/valid* part of a fetishist’s sexuality;
they’re just into it because Society doesn’t give them any better options. If they were in a culture where consent was an established Thing, the fetish would fall away.”
This is bullshit on multiple levels. It also happened to me. I was rather annoyed when I realised, partly because do you know how hard it is to find consensual hypnosis porn (well, obviously it would have to be difficult or this wouldn’t have happened in the first place) and partly because I resented supporting the pro-narrative argument by existing.
I haven’t tried to respond to that narrative since it happened. Any one thing I say would be undermining the others, and–unlike the repression one–I have no clue where to place my focus.
*In a culture with heavy reliance on “born this way” messages, these two words are treated as interchangeable, which is a big chunk (but not the entirety) of the problem.
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#reply via reblog #asexuality #sexuality and lack thereof #commiseration #consensual porn is like the food of the fairy folk #once you’ve had a taste you can never go back #normal food can’t sustain you anymore; all you can think about when you eat it is how much better the other stuff tasted
DIY Shape-Shifting Lamp That You Can Flip, Swirl And Arrange However You Want
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#neat #love the decor fandom
tattoo artist who can encode magic into tattoos but doesn’t want people to know she can so she just puts low-level luck spells on her clients’ bodies without telling them
jeweller who makes body jewellery and pendants which have amulet properties and draw love and luck and happiness to their wearers without them realising it
piercing artist who keeps the remnants from her piercings and puts them all in little jars in the back of her shop to work sympathetic luck spells on all her clients
and then all three of them slowly realise what the others are doing and end up in a poly relationship living in a little shop in the shitty end of town, which gets curiously less shitty the longer they stay, and people think it’s just the development of the area but the three artists know
and they’re never rich and they’re never famous but they’re always happy because they have everything they need
they have the shop and they have their customers and they have each other
and when their customers are happy and content, they pack up and move on, all together now, to find another space with skin to be coloured and jewellery to be made and magic to be done.
this is beautiful
DETROIT – The three body modification artists were arrested today on charges of voluntary manslaughter after a past client suffered a fatal stroke, allegedly due to thaumo-alchemical interactions between her prescribed potions and a luck charm that had been placed on one of her tattoos without her knowledge.
…
“Some potions and drugs are known to react with common charms, which is why it is absolutely essential that your doctor and pharmacist have a complete and accurate list of your active enchantments,” says pharmacist Patricia Patil. “Putting an enchantment of any kind, no matter how minor, on someone without their knowledge or permission is playing Russian Roulette with someone else’s life.”
…
The victim, Carmen Jackson, was 36 at the time of her death and is survived by a husband and 4 children.
“#death tw #yes this #I did not think this *exact* thing #but I did wonder why we were assumed to sympathise with people tricking others into taking spells”
Because consent isn’t part of our cultural narrative. Patriarchalism is – people assumed to be “wiser” doing what’s Best for other people without needing input from those stupid lower-class people who would reject the help out of fear and superstition and who never know what’s Actually Good for them.
Us, the lower classes and poors in this country, we know we’re shat on, but it’s still a long row to hoe challenging this internalized narrative, that if somebody who Knows Better than you (upperclass, educated, ~the Wise~) is doing what’s Good for you, they don’t need your consent or even to tell you what’s going on.
In skiffy, there’s a trope of the person who has to Decide The Fate Of Others angsting about it, feeling unworthy, actually addressing the fact that they’re making big honkin’ decisions about people’s lives without their consent… but the angst isn’t about whether the decisions should be made (and in skiffy there generally isn’t time or any achievable way to get everybody’s input), but over whether THE PERSON ANGSTING is “worthy”, is Wise enough, because they weren’t brought up to feel that deciding the fate of others is their job, they feel it’s the job of those higher up the totem pole who’ve done the deciding on the person’s own fate. If they had more time, the ability to consult, it’s not suggested that they should take the opinions of the people whose lives will be affected, but of their superiors who have more of a “right” to fuck with people’s situations.
It took me five minutes to figure out ‘Skiffy” was sci-fi, but other than that I love every bit about this commentary.
It’s true. The angsting is always that the decision is “above my pay grade” – i.e, something that should be decided by higher ups. Not angsting that this is something that should be decided by those it affects, or should not be decided at all.
Okay, so I mostly try to avoid commentary on that post (OH MY GOD STOP HAUNTING ME, POST), but this one I feel the need to talk about, because it was both really encouraging and really hard for me to read. Aaaand it got long, like everything I write, so it’s going under a cut i guess
Hi! I’m the person who wrote those tags justice-turtle is responding to. I noticed this in the recent notes while pressing the “like” button on our conversation about it.
I admit I flinched when I realised you’d seen us talking negatively about your post (conflict-avoidance ftw), but it went surprisingly well. I’m glad you agree with the main point, and I’m sorry you keep having to see people taking the OP the wrong way.
Have you considered a note-blocker extension? You sound like you could really use one. People will still be taking your post at face value, unfortunately, but at least you won’t have reminders of that constantly thrown in your face. I’ve never used one myself (never had a post go viral), so I can’t recommend any particular one from personal experience, but XKit has a NotificationBlock extension and I’m pretty sure there are independent note-blocker add-ons too. (They generally work on individual posts, so you’d still get notes from your other posts.)
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#reply via reblog
tattoo artist who can encode magic into tattoos but doesn’t want people to know she can so she just puts low-level luck spells on her clients’ bodies without telling them
jeweller who makes body jewellery and pendants which have amulet properties and draw love and luck and happiness to their wearers without them realising it
piercing artist who keeps the remnants from her piercings and puts them all in little jars in the back of her shop to work sympathetic luck spells on all her clients
and then all three of them slowly realise what the others are doing and end up in a poly relationship living in a little shop in the shitty end of town, which gets curiously less shitty the longer they stay, and people think it’s just the development of the area but the three artists know
and they’re never rich and they’re never famous but they’re always happy because they have everything they need
they have the shop and they have their customers and they have each other
and when their customers are happy and content, they pack up and move on, all together now, to find another space with skin to be coloured and jewellery to be made and magic to be done.
this is beautiful
DETROIT – The three body modification artists were arrested today on charges of voluntary manslaughter after a past client suffered a fatal stroke, allegedly due to thaumo-alchemical interactions between her prescribed potions and a luck charm that had been placed on one of her tattoos without her knowledge.
…
“Some potions and drugs are known to react with common charms, which is why it is absolutely essential that your doctor and pharmacist have a complete and accurate list of your active enchantments,” says pharmacist Patricia Patil. “Putting an enchantment of any kind, no matter how minor, on someone without their knowledge or permission is playing Russian Roulette with someone else’s life.”
…
The victim, Carmen Jackson, was 36 at the time of her death and is survived by a husband and 4 children.
“#death tw #yes this #I did not think this *exact* thing #but I did wonder why we were assumed to sympathise with people tricking others into taking spells”
Because consent isn’t part of our cultural narrative. Patriarchalism is – people assumed to be “wiser” doing what’s Best for other people without needing input from those stupid lower-class people who would reject the help out of fear and superstition and who never know what’s Actually Good for them.
Us, the lower classes and poors in this country, we know we’re shat on, but it’s still a long row to hoe challenging this internalized narrative, that if somebody who Knows Better than you (upperclass, educated, ~the Wise~) is doing what’s Good for you, they don’t need your consent or even to tell you what’s going on.
In skiffy, there’s a trope of the person who has to Decide The Fate Of Others angsting about it, feeling unworthy, actually addressing the fact that they’re making big honkin’ decisions about people’s lives without their consent… but the angst isn’t about whether the decisions should be made (and in skiffy there generally isn’t time or any achievable way to get everybody’s input), but over whether THE PERSON ANGSTING is “worthy”, is Wise enough, because they weren’t brought up to feel that deciding the fate of others is their job, they feel it’s the job of those higher up the totem pole who’ve done the deciding on the person’s own fate. If they had more time, the ability to consult, it’s not suggested that they should take the opinions of the people whose lives will be affected, but of their superiors who have more of a “right” to fuck with people’s situations.
Perhaps so, although I distrust anything involving the word “internalised” for actually pretty much the same reason: it tends to carry a very similar note of “we know you better than you know yourself, if you disagree with us on what’s Actually Good for you it’s only because you lack insight* into your problems”. There’s no defence against a charge like that. (You’d think “I’m second-generation social justice; sure, I had some contact with other, patriarchal subcultures, but I’m not a proverbial fish and my native tongue does have a word for water (you should know, it’s the tongue you’re speaking now)” would have at least some effect, but nobody ever really seems to notice when I say that. Besides, we born-and-raised types are rare enough that everyone else routinely forgets we exist, and other people deserve not to have that pulled on them too.)
*Here used in the psych jargon sense of “awareness that something is wrong with your mind”.
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#reply via reblog #my issues with sj let me show you them #(the following category tag was added retroactively:) #our roads may be golden or broken or lost
- There are Some Things Money Can’t Buy. Especially If You Abolish All Private Property.
- From each according to their ability, to each according to his need. For everything else, there’s #Marxcard.
- I don’t always seize the means of production from the bourgeoisie, but when I do, I prefer the Marx MasterCard.
- A spectre is haunting Europe – the spectre of cash back and low, low interest rates. #marxcard
- The Marx Card – Because Credit is the Opiate of the Masses.
- The Karl Marx MasterCard – When You’re Short of Kapital
- Reach For it when you get in the red
Is this your original work? It is hilarious, and the sort of thing I would expect to see lots of notes on.
(The times when I actually think “needs more notes” are always for joke posts.)
No! The Karl Marx Mastercard is a real thing! The first article I read about it in mentioned that it needed a tagline. I come up with a few of the obvious ones on my own before looking, but they’re all on twitter several times over.
Wait, what? They actually made a credit card with Marx on it?
What’s the ratio between P(credit card with Marx) and P(My perceptions are false|I’m sick and have had some related cognitive difficulties already)?
Bookmark this thread and come back to it when you’re feeling better. If it’s still there, news links and all, you’ll know it wasn’t a fever dream.
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#reply via reblog
tattoo artist who can encode magic into tattoos but doesn’t want people to know she can so she just puts low-level luck spells on her clients’ bodies without telling them
jeweller who makes body jewellery and pendants which have amulet properties and draw love and luck and happiness to their wearers without them realising it
piercing artist who keeps the remnants from her piercings and puts them all in little jars in the back of her shop to work sympathetic luck spells on all her clients
and then all three of them slowly realise what the others are doing and end up in a poly relationship living in a little shop in the shitty end of town, which gets curiously less shitty the longer they stay, and people think it’s just the development of the area but the three artists know
and they’re never rich and they’re never famous but they’re always happy because they have everything they need
they have the shop and they have their customers and they have each other
and when their customers are happy and content, they pack up and move on, all together now, to find another space with skin to be coloured and jewellery to be made and magic to be done.
this is beautiful
DETROIT – The three body modification artists were arrested today on charges of voluntary manslaughter after a past client suffered a fatal stroke, allegedly due to thaumo-alchemical interactions between her prescribed potions and a luck charm that had been placed on one of her tattoos without her knowledge.
…
“Some potions and drugs are known to react with common charms, which is why it is absolutely essential that your doctor and pharmacist have a complete and accurate list of your active enchantments,” says pharmacist Patricia Patil. “Putting an enchantment of any kind, no matter how minor, on someone without their knowledge or permission is playing Russian Roulette with someone else’s life.”
…
The victim, Carmen Jackson, was 36 at the time of her death and is survived by a husband and 4 children.
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#death tw #yes this #I did not think this *exact* thing #but I did wonder why we were assumed to sympathise with people tricking others into taking spells
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#music #poetry #I got it four lines in #fuck yeah #this was my favourite song when I was little #(you’re considering the sergeants as a Beatles reference then?) #(hadn’t thought of it but tbh I stopped trying to understand American Pie a *long* time ago) #(probably once I started hearing that most of it *had* no particular meaning)
enough
i’ve got to take a stance on this shit because ugh
Is this post a joke lmao fuck off op
y i k e s, not even touching this one
Wow. I just don’t even know where to start with this morally abhorrent train wreck of a post. Did nobody bother to tell the OP that of US home sales this January, forty fucking percent were cash sales? Pull your head out of your ass and at least get your facts straight before you spew this kind of bullshit.
It’s wrong. It’s wronger than wrong. And, somehow, it’s simultaneously not even wrong. I once considered trying to see how many distinct varieties of falsity I could cram into a single sentence, but no more. My best efforts to date have been left completely in the dust by your first. five. words. Every statement in that post attains a level of stupidity matched only by the next one. You have made every mistake along every axis that I can think of bar two: you did not screw up the use-mention distinction, and you correctly spelled the word “if.” In every other arena, you have made every error of logic, morality, and sports history that I or anyone else has ever had the misfortune to read. I can confidently say that you have made blunders which had never before been conceived of by a rational mind and still haven’t. I am legitimately impressed that anyone so absolutely misguided managed to retain the ability to so much as blither.
And chocolate is better than vanilla.
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#anything that makes me laugh this much deserves a reblog #(I dislike jokes involving tricking people) #(but it’s still funny even if you read the read-more first)
Quick: Off the top of your head, reblog with your favorite word
petrichor
Kumquat.
Ausgezeichnet
cataract (of water, not of the eye)
Enjambment
Defenestrate
copacetic
backpfeifengesicht
either extraordinary or tintinnabulation
thylacine and pangolin
armadillidiidae
Onomatopoeia
disease-danger-darkness-silence:
Pyroclastic.
Dichotomy and aphelion.
I like the word “bucket.”
Relinquish.
Meridian
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#meme #language
