limeadeislife:

Things that hurt people are bad, even if they’re not on the list of Officially Recognized Bad Things That We Know to Not Like


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#yes this #in related news (at least they tend to go together a lot in *my* experience)‚ things that hurt people are bad even if #they have enough good aspects to still be worth doing on net #I would much rather that someone openly admit ”we’re sacrificing you for the greater good” than pretend I’m not relevant to the decision #(I may or may not still fight back‚ depending on the tradeoff‚ but either way I can *respect* it) #our roads may be golden or broken or lost

pynapplepyro:

Movie : builds up tension with a person shrouded in shadows

My faceblind self : OOO I WONDER WHO IT IS!

Movie : Dramatically flashes a spot light on that person.

My faceblind self : OOO I WONDER WHO IT IS!


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#yes this #prosopagnosia #tales from the prosopagnosia tag

etirabys:

Been spending kinda-scary-when-I’m-not-sure-when-I’ll-make-money-again amounts of money on new house stuff because we need all sorts of things likes oven mitts and bleach and plungers, etc. It’s interesting to see how much stuff is out of stock on Amazon because of the pandemic, and I really wish I had visibility into what bottlenecks are responsible. Why is this kitchen stool available in red tend days from now, but indefinitely unavailable in black? Is it some dye shortage? Why is this hand mixer available with attachments X, but not Y? What happened? I want to know but I’m destined not to


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#yes this #covid19 #adventures in human capitalism #illness tw #this probably deserves some other warning tag but I am not sure what

traegorn:

closet-keys:

When I was a kid I was genuinely horrified by the idea of growing up and I think a large part of it was the insistence by adults in my life that puberty would turn me into someone completely different. They were like “sure you don’t like make up and boys now but you’ll feel differently after puberty” or like “sure you think you wouldn’t want kids now but you’ll see once you’re older”

it’s like damn, stop invalidating kids’ personalities and listen to them and maybe you won’t be so shocked when they don’t transform into a new person later

My wife and I don’t ever plan on having kids, but my Dad always had one piece of parenting advice I’ll never forget.

He said “Pay attention to who your children are when they’re little. If you do that, you’ll never be surprised at who they become. The only people who think kids suddenly become other people when they hit adolescence are the ones who never listened to what their kids were telling them the whole time.”


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#yes this #furthermore‚ it has been my experience that even when puberty *does* do shit to you it does not make you *endorse* it #knock on wood‚ but I strongly suspect that even if I *do* get some biological-clock-ticking shit later #I’m still not *actually* going to want kids #it’ll just be another annoying reflex‚ a vestige of ancestral memory #no more meaningful than the urge to jump off cliffs

systlin:

c-is-for-circinate:

A particular distinction I often wish got made in discussions of privilege (and those who have it, and those who don’t) is the difference between privileges which, in a fair and just world, everybody ought to have, vs the privileges that nobody ought to have.

Many things in the world qualify as privilege.  Being able to marry the person you love is a privilege.  Feeling safe in your own neighborhood is a privilege.  Having the space and security to put down a task, a fight, a social justice issue, and walk away for a while and rest, is a privilege.

And also: being able to hurt somebody else and get away with it is a privilege.  Knowing that others are likely to take your side in an argument, whether you’re actually right or not, is a privilege.  The ability to horde or destroy common resources like water and rainforests is a privilege.

Exercising an everybody-ought-to privilege isn’t wrong.  Using it in such a way that it interferes with another person or people having access to everybody-ought-to privileges is.

Having access to nobody-ought-to privilege is a flaw of the system, not the individual who has access to those privileges.  Using a nobody-ought-to privilege is a fault of the person.

Refusing to use your everybody-ought-to privileges “until everybody has them”, or demonizing their existence, so rarely helps anybody.  Straight people refusing to get married didn’t contribute too terribly much to gay marriage; you don’t make somebody else’s neighborhood safer by deliberately making your own more dangerous.  Insisting on never putting down or walking away from a social justice fight because other people can’t isn’t a recipe for progress, it’s a recipe for burnout.

There’s a difference between helping yourself and hurting other people.  We should talk more about finding ways to do one and not the other.

This is an excellent point.


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#yes this #our roads may be golden or broken or lost #discourse cw?

i-run-a-trash-blog:

Me, even though Donna’s ending was over a decade ago: Here’s how Donna can still win


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#so I went and looked through this person’s #Donna Noble #tag and there is some quality stuff in there #but also #yes this #in this house we are *never* over Donna Noble #Doctor Who #politics cw? #(for the meme) #amnesia cw?

rustingbridges:

andmaybegayer:

If you’re a person who has problems Touching Certain Things I highly recommend buying a box of disposable nitrile gloves, because I’ve used them for everything from baking very sticky bread to scooping grease out of a drain to (today) tying up garbage that had maggots in it.

yeah they’re great. I used to use them for all kinds of things


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#yes this #unsanitary cw?

data point

carnalisation:

balioc:

oligopsalter:

As a reader, I like worldbuilding, even (and sometimes especially) the expository parts. I read SFF because it’s the genre that most delivers that. It feels actively annoying when I have to sit through Plot that I’ve seen a million times before to get to soak in a world that I haven’t, or even to look at (say) extruded D&D fantasy in fine everyday detail with new eyes.

I feel like this should be obvious, but I still see, pretty regularly, appeals to authors to stop so much worldbuilding and focus on what obviously really matters to presumed readers, the story. I’m sure there are plenty of readers for whom that’s true! Good for them! But it’s not universal and we’re living in a long-tail world. Unless you’re right on the edge of being able to write full-time and writing to market means the difference between having a day job or not, don’t let The Average Reader become a sort of imperative-issuing Big Other. I would guess there are many more readers who love baroque expository worldbuilding than there are people who are really into, I don’t know, mpreg werewolf fanfiction, but there’s a thriving audience for that and more power to them, so don’t let them hog all the fun!

Amen.

This can be applied more generally to showing-versus-telling, I think.  If you’ve got something that’s more interesting than the beat-by-beat progression of your yarn, you should tell us about it, rather than slicing it up into little pieces and embedding those pieces in the unfolding plot.

…but then again, I read splatbooks for fun, so maybe I’m not the best person to ask.

…but I’m probably not the only one who does that kind of thing.

Regarding “show don’t tell” – I went through books at an immense speed as a child. Real-life social interactions were mystifying, but books offered me all they lacked: they explained what was happening, why it was happening, what people felt when it happened, and how their reactions related to their feelings. It was a cheat sheet for human behavior, and it made little me more empathetic and interested in people even when my experiences with them were unpleasant.
When I encounter books that took “show don’t tell” to heart, they confuse and sometimes anger me. What do the characters mean by raising an eyebrow, or blinking slowly? Why are they reacting with anger here, and nonchalance there, and why do your other characters treat that as meaningful and informative?
It’s like dramatic face shots in movies, where the actors stare blandly at something and there’s emotional music and it’s obvious it’s supposed to convey something, but I never know what that is.
There’s a weird opposite phenomenon of characters reading facial expressions and narrating their readings “the look in his eyes told me he was deeply troubled by what he just saw” – they’re eyes! They’re orbs with lenses and people use them to see. How can you tell?
Obviously reading facial expressions is not magic for everyone. Still, I miss being catered to by writers allowing me to get a good view of the inside of character’s heads without having to throw up my hands and say “well I guess these people have reasons and emotions but I’ll never know which, thanks a lot”.


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#re: OP: #yes this #I looked in the notes and found this branch #which is not *as* pure in its Yes-This-ness as the OP #but is interesting and definitely has its moments of relatability #(I distinctly recall going on a similar rant about ”the look in their eyes” in my early teens) #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #autism