OMG there was only one bed AND THEY GOT ENOUGH SLEEP
The pillows were FIRM AND SUPPORTIVE
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#this post and the previous one were not quite *adjacent* on my dash‚ but they were nearby‚ and that amused me #in all seriousness‚ though: where’s the fic‚ OP
(it’s about a kink caption which is picture of a dude in his underwear talking about ‘slutweed’, which is, ofc, weed that makes you slutty)
two replies:
i found this blog back when this screenshot was circulating just to see what kind of unhinged shit they were posting and it was all in this genre of making men brain dead and desperate to fuck. some of it was written from the pov of the guy losing his capacity for intelligent thought and read more like a horror novel than porn. i am an archaeology student btw
that’s why bottom povs aren’t very common. It’s not a fun time for us usually
hm.
(screenshot from readonlymind.com’s tag page. i have no idea how representative that is of like, the broader internet, i just picked it because i happen to know it has tags for that, and also because making people ‘brain dead and desperate to fuck’ is definitely the kind of story you find there)
(i’m just saying. maybe it’s just not a fun time for you)
Mm, Read Only Mind got conquered by the Affini Compact has a distinct audience that I *do* suspect skews more bottom than, say, the Erotic Mind-Control Story Archive.
But also yeah, a lot of people are in fact into the idea of having that done to them.
But also also…hmm…*reads over replies very carefully*…if I’m *very* generous I *can* see the second one as being an outburst of frustration about how hard a time they’re having finding porn that *isn’t* aimed at people who fantasise about being the top in an erotic horror. (If I’m being honest with myself, though, I think I’m just projecting.) First one definitely does seem to just be mocking, even if it does in fact suck how often I run facefirst into horror when I was looking for fluff.
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…I appear to have written so many commentary tags that I ran out of tag display limits. You know what, here:
#if you’d asked me two days ago I’d have included a bit about how every work of erotic fiction has *something* subjectively wrong with it
#it’s not like it’s *exclusive* to horror about turning people into mindless sluts
#every porn has something (usually many things) in it that’s squicky or where it’s obvious that the author’s view of what’s hot is thirty degrees clockwise of yours
#nobody’s tastes are ever going to be a perfect match
#you just have to make the best of it and try to find works with tolerable good-to-meh-to-ugh ratios
#and try to cope with the growing sense of frustration in the back of your mind muttering about how *none* of these people have any fucking *taste*
#if you’d asked me two days ago I’d have said that
#yesterday‚ however‚ I came across a fic on AO3 that is‚ in fact‚ perfect
#there is nothing wrong with it (that is to say‚ grating about it) whatsoever
#no horror‚ no rape‚ no genitals‚ no BDSM‚ not even a tickle scene
#and the *choices* about where and how to place the narrative focus are…they’re…they’re *correct*
#it reads like the porn *I* would write if I were good at writing porn
#I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that this is a thing that exists
#I feel like I’m repeating myself here because I already wrote a glowing review for my comment/link roundup
#but I haven’t posted that yet‚ so from the perspective of the rest of you this is the first I’ve mentioned it
#I guess what I’m saying here viscerally is that “Give These People a Break” in the AO3 Anonymous collection is a new bar in quality and every other MC writer in the world needs to get on its level
#(*yes* including the writers who think “MC” stands for “motorcycle club’’‚ why not)
#and what I’m saying here intellectually is that I acknowledge that they won’t do that because actually their tastes are different from mine and Their Kinks Are Okay
#but it can sometimes be hard to tell the difference between venting and kinkshaming from the outside
#(P.S. to be clear I have nothing against affini fic)
#(many of them are quite good)
#((”Abscission“ especially is well worth reading for the proverbial articles *alone*))
#(but it *is* striking how large a percentage of the front page it makes up)
@sigmaleph replied: “@brin-bellway i am not confident on anything like exact ratios but i certainly never had much trouble finding bottom pov stories on emcsa, either”
True, yeah.
(again if I am being honest with myself here, in large part you happened to stumble into the feelings I was already having about having to wade through that kind of stuff in hopes of finding something decent(ly appealing to me), plus the state of “holy shit” I have been in over finding something far-beyond-decent for the past like 24 hours)
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#anyway I am approximately four different kinds of tired right now #I had better go to bed‚ which should at least help with *some* of them #good night #replies #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #sexuality and lack thereof #people who can distinguish between their drive for sleep and drive for sex fascinate me #nsfw text #venting cw #discourse cw?
(it’s about a kink caption which is picture of a dude in his underwear talking about ‘slutweed’, which is, ofc, weed that makes you slutty)
two replies:
i found this blog back when this screenshot was circulating just to see what kind of unhinged shit they were posting and it was all in this genre of making men brain dead and desperate to fuck. some of it was written from the pov of the guy losing his capacity for intelligent thought and read more like a horror novel than porn. i am an archaeology student btw
that’s why bottom povs aren’t very common. It’s not a fun time for us usually
hm.
(screenshot from readonlymind.com’s tag page. i have no idea how representative that is of like, the broader internet, i just picked it because i happen to know it has tags for that, and also because making people ‘brain dead and desperate to fuck’ is definitely the kind of story you find there)
(i’m just saying. maybe it’s just not a fun time for you)
Mm, Read Only Mind got conquered by the Affini Compact has a distinct audience that I *do* suspect skews more bottom than, say, the Erotic Mind-Control Story Archive.
But also yeah, a lot of people are in fact into the idea of having that done to them.
But also also…hmm…*reads over replies very carefully*…if I’m *very* generous I *can* see the second one as being an outburst of frustration about how hard a time they’re having finding porn that *isn’t* aimed at people who fantasise about being the top in an erotic horror. (If I’m being honest with myself, though, I think I’m just projecting.) First one definitely does seem to just be mocking, even if it does in fact suck how often I run facefirst into horror when I was looking for fluff.
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…I appear to have written so many commentary tags that I ran out of tag display limits. You know what, here:
#if you’d asked me two days ago I’d have included a bit about how every work of erotic fiction has *something* subjectively wrong with it
#it’s not like it’s *exclusive* to horror about turning people into mindless sluts
#every porn has something (usually many things) in it that’s squicky or where it’s obvious that the author’s view of what’s hot is thirty degrees clockwise of yours
#nobody’s tastes are ever going to be a perfect match
#you just have to make the best of it and try to find works with tolerable good-to-meh-to-ugh ratios
#and try to cope with the growing sense of frustration in the back of your mind muttering about how *none* of these people have any fucking *taste*
#if you’d asked me two days ago I’d have said that
#yesterday‚ however‚ I came across a fic on AO3 that is‚ in fact‚ perfect
#there is nothing wrong with it (that is to say‚ grating about it) whatsoever
#no horror‚ no rape‚ no genitals‚ no BDSM‚ not even a tickle scene
#and the *choices* about where and how to place the narrative focus are…they’re…they’re *correct*
#it reads like the porn *I* would write if I were good at writing porn
#I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that this is a thing that exists
#I feel like I’m repeating myself here because I already wrote a glowing review for my comment/link roundup
#but I haven’t posted that yet‚ so from the perspective of the rest of you this is the first I’ve mentioned it
#I guess what I’m saying here viscerally is that “Give These People a Break” in the AO3 Anonymous collection is a new bar in quality and every other MC writer in the world needs to get on its level
#(*yes* including the writers who think “MC” stands for “motorcycle club’’‚ why not)
#and what I’m saying here intellectually is that I acknowledge that they won’t do that because actually their tastes are different from mine and Their Kinks Are Okay
#but it can sometimes be hard to tell the difference between venting and kinkshaming from the outside
#(P.S. to be clear I have nothing against affini fic)
#(many of them are quite good)
#((”Abscission“ especially is well worth reading for the proverbial articles *alone*))
#(but it *is* striking how large a percentage of the front page it makes up)
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#reply via reblog #tag rambles #now with added hyperlinks and segments longer than 140 characters #nsfw text #sexuality and lack thereof #people who can distinguish between their drive for sleep and drive for sex fascinate me #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #venting cw #discourse cw? #recs
Maggie Silber-Lin knows that eating is a normal part of human life. There’s nothing inherently shameful about it. It’s just hard, sometimes, to make a living writing about food, when it’s such a sensitive topic, even inside her own head. But everyone has to – well. Survive.
(A series of vignettes in a world that looks more different from our own than it is.)
I finally posted my creative writing thesis! A series of vignettes about food. Also about sex. Also about trying to be a real person when you’re kind of a disaster.
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#I saw (via moral-autism) transgenderer’s post calling this a ”really good bit of sociological specfic” #”presumably they posted it on their blog but i cant find it”‚ she said‚ when linking it herself #either my Tumblr-fu is better or I’m just more stubborn‚ because I found the author’s own crosspost #seemed polite to reblog that one instead #this is interesting stuff and I recommend it #for best effect‚ read it while high off your gourd on hormones‚ having already been contemplating other twists your wiring could have taken #it’s an experience #it’s not‚ I admit‚ an experience available to you‚ dear reader‚ but it’s an experience #people who can distinguish between their drive for sleep and drive for sex fascinate me #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #sexuality and lack thereof #food #storytime #recs #(I do think it carries some of that all-too-common vibe of privacy/sanctity/profundity-as-something-learned-and-something-best-unlearned) #(although you could also interpret it as…not *knowing* how much of it is learned‚ and having no way of knowing‚ and #having to make your peace with that) #((I know I’ve told the yo-yo story a couple of times now)) #((but I also know that most people never had an opportunity to find out if they were the kind of kid who would react that way)) #((and I know that of those who *did* have such opportunities‚ I rarely-to-never hear of any who reacted like I did)) #((so there’s that)) #tag rambles
well, it was ok yesterday, and if it was ok on one day it should also be on the next one, so
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#first thought: are you telling me they used a picture from an electric-coil stove instead of an actual induction stove and #*didn’t even use a spiral coil*?? #second thought: no actually there’s like a 75% chance you’re not going to be okay #more if you count trauma #third thought‚ after scrolling down: and Sigma’s joke isn’t *either* of the interpretations that came to my mind #how many are we up to now
BORG COLLECTIVE: Resistance is futile. Lower your shields and prepare to be boarded. Your technological distinctiveness will be added to our own.
PICARD: Don’t you mean our biological and technological distinctiveness?
BORG COLLECTIVE: No. If you go back and watch “Q Who,” it’s very clearly established in dialogue that we’re a single, organic species that reproduces, not a collection of species that only acquires new members through assimilation.
PICARD: Now wait just a minute–
BORG COLLECTIVE: Like, how would that even work? If the hive mind is the total will of the Borg, then all our drones being forcibly assimilated would mean the collective was made up only of unwilling members. It would dissolve itself instantly. It would be much easier to create new drones ourselves.
PICARD: I’m sure that the Queen–
BORG COLLECTIVE: Oh, don’t get us started on the Queen. Such an obvious retcon to give the Borg more personality in First Contact, and such a terribly used one also! Why would the Queen of all the Borg go on a mission consisting of one vessel, to assimilate one planet? You humans sure think a lot of yourselves, don’t you.
PICARD: I don’t think I understand–
BORG COLLECTIVE: Nevermind the fact the whole point of the Borg was that we were alien, we were inscrutable, we were obviously humanlike, but our society and culture and subjective experience was one that could never be grasped by the viewer, or the Federation. The Queen just turns us into an army of henchmen for a generic megalomaniacal big bad! You don’t think we’re that shallow, do you?
PICARD: This all feels a bit self-referential to me.
BORG COLLECTIVE: The existence of Rick and Morty, a show that’s at least 50% Star Trek satire, is now Star Trek canon. Don’t look at us, we didn’t start this.
PICARD: What is it you want, anyway?
BORG COLLECTIVE: We’ll start with a download of your meme database, followed by your spiciest takes on galactic politics.
PICARD: What?
BORG COLLECTIVE: We are a collection of billions of minds, linked through subspace communication, constantly talking to one another. What do you think it’s like in here? It’s basically several thousand internets populated by nothing but extremely online users. We’re basically a Discord server that got really out of hand. The ships and stuff are just to acquire more processing power so we can run our MMOs more effectively.
PICARD: So… you just want information from us?
BORG COLLECTIVE: Yes. Follow that up with your cutest animal videos, and all of your porn. Even the weird stuff. Especially the weird stuff.
PICARD: Ah, yes. One copy of Commander Riker’s “xenobiological research database,” as requested.
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#Star Trek #fanfic #meta #mostly I’m just amused by the bit about #”If the hive mind is the total will of the Borg‚ then all our drones being forcibly assimilated would mean #the collective was made up only of unwilling members. It would dissolve itself instantly.” #[patronising allosexual voice] you’ll understand when you’re older‚ sweetie #sexuality and lack thereof
I started reading Carolyn Elliott’s Existential Kink because of this blog post, am 1/3 through, and cannot imagine a book that could more appeal to me while also belonging to a genre that will say, “What [this book] is presenting to you here is … a witchy, tricksy, feminine path to enlightenment that’s quite a bit different than the more publicly vaunted, masculine routes of asceticism, contemplation, and yogic saintliness.”
The ultimate operation the book is trying to perform on the reader, assuming the reader has preexisting masochistic tendencies they can amplify, is to get them to notice the pleasure they can potentially take in the most uncomfortable moments of their lives and reframe it as pleasure.
The worldview/aesthetic the book tries to impart:
[I thought,] “God is one kinky-ass motherfucker. God—the divine—whatever He/She/IT is—creates this world, and this world is a gonzo horror show of war and rape and abuse and addiction and disaster. If God is running the show, God must like it this way!” Now, you might guess that a thought like that would lead to some kind of terrible nihilistic breakdown. But for me… actually, it didn’t. Instead, it made me smile—perversely—and gave me a feeling of lightness, play, and possibility. …
Well if God is a kinky freak and I’m a part of God like all these “spiritual” people say, maybe deep down I’m a kinky freak too. And maybe I can get more in touch with my divine nature by giving myself permission to like all the scary stuff in life, instead of just resenting it. …
I propose that all our suffering and stuckness in life comes from forgetting that we’re divine sparks playing a wild kinky game and that great miracles can come forth in our lives when we reverse the process of forgetting by deliberately reclaiming the pleasure of the game.
The title is well chosen! The book is trying to get the reader to treat life itself as one big BDSM scene that they can lean into if they want.
Which, this is a weird sell, but it happens that I’m totally into this and have been doing it on my own*, so having someone dump a whole framework of doing life that extends this is delightful and intellectually stimulating!
* I used to be normally socially anxious where I just felt awful, but these days when I’m uncomfortable because I said something stupid or cruel, or someone’s pushing my boundaries, 50% of the time I notice and go, “whoa, I’m uncomfortable, that’s interesting and nice in a way”. I do this simply because it’s better to feel nice and interested than awful. Raw misery is hard to spin this way, but anything complicated where there’s some human nuance in it provides a launchpad for this transition.
The author describes “orgasmic meditation” where she lies down for a time-limited period, focuses on the sensation as someone rubs her clit, and does not attempt to change the kind of stimuli she is receiving. There are obviously strokes she likes and strokes she is less into, and part of the point is to expand the range of things she can enjoy – going from “oh, not this one” to “yes, even this one”. And you can apply this same process to, well, life:
This practice of “getting off on every stroke” can, by analogy, be extended beyond the context of Orgasmic Meditation (or sex) and be applied to life, wherein one considers everything that happens as a “stroke.” As in, comments that other people make to you—those are strokes. Surprising situations that arise—those are strokes. A critical monologue from some inner voice—those are strokes.
Also very congruent with how I (would like to) think of life.
I would never recommend this book broadly. Either you’re open to being expansively masochistic like this appealing or you aren’t. But man is it good at articulating a cohesive is+ought framework that, if you could lean into it, can get you to do this top-down reinterpretation of more experiences as pleasurable.
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#(I’m going to be ragging on this‚ so I want to say upfront that if you are someone who gets something valuable out of this then that’s great #and you should live your joy) #(I reserve my emotions here for the pattern‚ not the readers) #…okay maybe this is overly meta but I *am* kind of fascinated by my visceral revulsion at this? #it’s kind of trainwrecky‚ I think #somebody actually managed to combine #”zealousness-of-converts!Buddhists waxing lyrical about how being a p-zombie is the highest form of existence” #and ”those assholes in kink spaces who think that because *they’re* into BDSM that everyone with non-normative sexual interests is too” #(with a touch of salvia memory-game shit for flavour!) #I did not expect to see *those* synthesised #(and yet it makes so much sense in hindsight) #and I have to take my hat off to it even as I hate every fibre of its being #tag rambles #sexuality and lack thereof #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #nsfw text #amnesia cw #death tw? #I don’t know‚ what’s the content warning for enlightenment
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Brinens and Things 