Okay so I just got off the phone with them. I talked to a trans girl named Aurora & she was super helpful! She gave me a few doctors to talk to & encouraged me to seek therapy instead of just rushing to get my pills. She literally found a trans friendly therapist in my town & I would definitely recommend giving them a call!
Check out their website for monetary help here! People can apply for ID assistance in the form of microgrants, which I previously had no idea about! Also trans folks can train to be a hotline operator, how awesome is that??
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#gender #the more you know #not as discoursey as it first appears
Odo switches around his gender presentation whenever he feels like it, and pretty much everyone is nonplussed. He’s comfortable with pretty much any pronouns besides “it” so there’s a lot of different people around the station who use different things. Some always use he/she/ze/they etc, some switch around depending on how Odo’s presenting that day. Sisko usually uses the binary pronoun that most closely fits that day’s presentation when introducing Odo to temporary visitors to avoid getting off track with explanations, but he often uses “they” among station staff. For one species “odo” actually sounds very similar to a pronoun in their language so they basically view him as a French speaker would view a woman named Elle, and to everyone else it just sounds like they never use pronouns for him. Kira is most used to using “him” because that’s what was used exclusively during the occupation (Odo didn’t feel comfortable being as free with his form under the Cardassians) but sometimes she’ll use a Bajoran pronoun that doesn’t specify gender but rather respectfulness [those actually do exist in some human languages!!]. Starfleet’s files officially list him as genderfluid because the first time an officer asked his gender he said “…I am a fluid.”
Bonus: he likes to take on a hyper-feminine form when arresting Quark, to annoy the little misogynist
#I feel like you would appreciate this #Star Trek #DS9 #Odo #gender #(I personally tend to headcanon him as having gotten attached to his maleness in much the same way) #(he gets attached to his patrol schedule and furniture placement) #(but I like this version too)
honestly the term “biohacking’ in reference to trans people accomplishes nothing except making transitioning seem really really really fucking cool
im in
*Hackers voice* I’m him
That’s possibly one of the funniest jokes I’ve ever read
It’s kinda like calling copyright infringement “piracy”. Like, OK, can you also try to run a smear campaign against cannabis by calling it, uh, “ninja juice”?
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#gender #I didn’t actually laugh aloud but it still amused me enough to reblog
Since being consistently on HRT since the start of the year, I’ve gone from “perky, sensitive nipples on a flat chest” to “actually has breasts and feels slightly awkward walking around with no bra”, and the process seems to be accelerating somewhat.
Also, they hurt ALL THE TIME. Like, even giving people hugs is painful. Luckily, the skill points I recently invested in masochism have been extremely useful here, so this hasn’t been a problem in the slightest. Dull aches are the easiest to mentally reinterpret, so I’ve experienced zero unpleasantness throughout this.
Overall, the sudden boob growth seems good? I’m mostly indifferent to whether I have breasts directly (I’d find it slightly more convenient not to, I think), but I expect it to be good for getting people to read me as female, especially with my top off. (Though I’ve found that breasts have only a small effect on how people read you, and flat chest + eyeliner passes better than prominent falsies + no eyeliner.) Also, like, straight guys like breasts, I’ve been informed.
The other thing having actual flesh-boobs might be useful for is someday being able to nurse children, which would be super convenient. And this seems like it might actually be possible, because for the past few days I’ve actually been lactating any time pressure is placed on my chest. So, proof of concept that lactation is possible.
The only problem is, I seem to be lactating mostly water? Like, y’know how the milk-producing glands are modified sweat glands? I seem to still have roughly-normal sweat glands there instead, so I think I’m producing very dilute sweat, or something.
So, if anyone knows about the biology of transition: What should I expect to happen there? Will they just naturally develop further into actually producing milk, or should I modify my HRT in some way to encourage that? And where might I learn more about this?
Tagging @testblogdontupvote, @lethriloth, and @cptsdcarlosdevil as people who might maybe know more about how trans biology works. But also, like, all contributions appreciated.
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#signal boost #I personally do not know the answer to this question #(I have never lactated and I produce all my hormones internally) #but maybe some of you know the answer? #nsfw text? #gender
Question for the mind control fetishist community that is inexplicably over-represented among my followers:
I’ve recently become curious about the theory I’ve heard that asexual people who have kinks often have an autophilic sexuality. That is, their primary sexual interest is tied to them achieving some specific state. They’d have the same range of sexual response as allosexuals, but in response to achieving their preferred state to varyingly precise degrees.
For example, some asexuals are into amputation, or depictions of amputees. They often are more interested in being amputees themselves than in other people who are amputees. Often they’ll enjoy fantasising about being amputees, and further prefer situations where they can pretend to be amputees, and sometimes even desire actual amputation.
And I just remembered that lots of people who follow this blog are part of the mind control kink community! Which always surprises me, because I don’t think I post any mind control related content, and am honestly really sexually boring. But, like, I’ll totally give you guys more shout outs if you can help me learn about this.
My question is: Are asexual mind control fetishists more interested in being mentally controlled/impaired or in controlling others / the mental impairments of other? The autosexuality theory implies that asexuals should overwhelmingly prefer to be controlled/impaired, or be most aroused by the thought of their own altered mental state.
Also, autosexualities are in general correlated with being transgender. Are asexuals in the mind control kink community more likely to be transgender or feel gender dysphoric?
Right now I’m just curious about whether there’s any anecdotal support for this random thought, in case it’s worth doing a survey of. Would anyone be willing to tell me if their personal impression of the community supports or debunks this hypothesis? @acemindbreaker, @brin-bellway, @bannableoffense, @enscenic and anyone else who might have an opinion on this.
First of all, I would like to give the context in which I became aware of this post:
Me: *switches on Wi-Fi on phone, goes to check weather report*
Phone: *buzzes*
Me: Oh, is that an email notification?
Email notification: “sinesalvatorem has mentioned you in a post!
‘Question for the mind control fetishist community that is inexplicably over-represented among my followers…’”
I was amused by this. (I think because I played a critical part in the original surge in such followers.) (Also, it seems to be a popular kink among rat-Tumblr denizens in general.)
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I personally am very much autophilic, but when I query my brain for “asexual or asexual-ish hypno-fetishists” I mostly get back switches. I’m not sure in how many cases their switchinesses were deliberately cultivated, though, or what they started off as if so. (I remember @ellaenchanting talking about how her first hypnosis community was aimed at non-sexual recreational users, and that in that community taking a single role was Not Done: everyone was expected to switch. (I think the idea was something like “how are you supposed to experience the full extent of how neat hypnosis is without seeing it from both sides? and anyway, experience with one side of things will help you when doing the other, because you know more about what it’s like for your partner”, plus an assumption that people weren’t going to be especially attached to one role to start with.))
I’m really not sure how gender tends to go.
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#reply via reblog #sexuality and lack thereof #nsfw text? #asexuality #gender
Bad: aliens that insist upon referring to human women as “feeeeemales”.
Good: aliens that insist upon dividing humans into binary categories, but the binary in question is based on something we’d regard as trivial and bizarre.
Even better: there is no criteria, the Aliens just keep a running list of whenever one member designated a human as edible or not. People are baffled because the selection appears random yet all the aliens are up to date, so there must be SOMETHJNG
I love this because it implies the aliens possess either (1) a universal hive mind or (2) an intergalactic group chat dedicated to fucking with humanity
That’d be awesome. LOVE ME AND DESPAIR. ARE YOU GAY? ARE YOU STRAIGHT?! YOU JUST DON’T KNOW BUT YOU STILL WANT ME. MWAHAHAHAHA
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#this amuses me because my reaction to it #is exactly the opposite of the reaction of the presumable target audience #both of these things are *downsides* to me #today a random stranger (customer) referred to me as ”she” #and I felt pleased that I had presented my gender successfully #I’m not even trans or anything #it is not and has never been particularly *difficult* for me to present as female #yet I am still always pleased by success #also being attractive sounds like it would lead to a lot of unwanted attention #ideally I would like to look plain in a vaguely pleasant manner #(I think I do pretty well at this for the most part) #gender #tag rambles
Growing up, I would often read people describe “the spot on your back that you can’t reach.” Generally in the context of, like, putting on sunscreen.
I was always super confused by this, in a classic case of generalizing from one example. I can still overlap my hands at the small of my back; there’s nowhere on my back I can’t reach pretty comfortably. It still surprises me every time someone can’t do that.
….wait, that’s actually a thing?
I always assumed that when people said that, they meant, like, “the spot on your back that’s slightly awkward to reach so maybe if someone’s putting on sunscreen right next to you they’ll get it for you since you can’t see it anyway”
Me, reading a story with centaurs that has just mentioned them having a scratching post†: “Huh, yeah, centaurs *would* have large swaths of their bodies they can’t reach with their hands. It’s *weird*, trying to wrap my head around the idea of people who can’t reach every part of their skin with their manipulating appendages. What must that be like?”
Me: “…wait, hang on, there are some humans who are like that”
Me: “my *mom* is like that”
(When it first came up, Mom was likewise surprised to learn that I *could* reach every spot on my back. She brought up age and fatness as possible reasons for us to differ on this, but I remember there’s a Shel Silverstein poem about the one spot on your back you can’t reach that expected children to find this a relatable feel, so I expect it’s not that. Fatness could maybe still be involved.)
†Edit: I mean this in the sense of “a post you rub against to scratch yourself”, not the sense of “a post you scratch”.
I was always told this was a sexual dimorphism thing – that (cis) girls could reach the middle of their back while (cis) boys could not, and that it was due to some kind of evolutionary thing about girls having specialized baby-holding elbows while boys had specialized spear-throwing elbows. (hence “you throw like a girl” = you throw badly)
I take it this is all a load of bullcrap?
Probably a load of bullcrap, yeah. Even if it is sex-linked, I doubt those are the reasons for it.
(Mom and I are both cis women, though she has PCOS and I don’t so our hormonal profiles are noticeably different. And I think jadagul (the OP, who can do it) is cis-male, but I won’t swear to it.)
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#gender #is the blue I see the same as the blue you see #reply via reblog
So, being able to accentuate gender with clothing is nice, but guys are missing out by not having a version of tights. (They don’t, right? Not since the medieval tunic+leggings?)
I just had a conversation about this issue the other day. A friend and I were looking at a pair of women’s jeans.
“And this one has roomier pockets than the other one.”
“This is the one with bigger pockets!? Wow, women’s pockets are as bad as everyone says they are.”
“Yeah but women normally carry purses so they don’t really need pockets, do they? Some men are so worried about their gender roles that they can’t conceive of any bag that isn’t a women’s purse. They have to carry everything in their cargo pants all the time. So who’s really at a disadvantage here?”
I don’t know about historically, but in the case of a number of particular girls and women I know (including myself and my younger sister), the chain of causation was in fact [needing to carry pads/tampons] –> [carrying a purse]. (And pads/tampons don’t tend to fit well even into quite large pockets, due to bulk & length respectively.)
I always carry either a purse or a backpack when I’m actually going somewhere, so no pockets are gonna be enough to replace everything for me, but I really like having pockets for things that I am likely to want while in transit (phone, transit pass, credit card, headphones, maybe fidget spinner) or when I’m just going a couple blocks away to buy something. When I carry a purse it’s because I don’t have enough stuff for a backpack to be necessary & I have more stuff than will fit in my pockets right now (which can be because I’m actually going somewhere, or because I don’t have any pockets).
I would much prefer it if more of my clothes had pockets, but I pretty much never decide not to buy something because of lack of pockets, so I guess I’m not really helping.
I prefer not having to carry a purse/backpack, and would go without more often if I had pants with pockets deep enough that my wallet/phone didn’t fall out of them pretty regularly. >.> (Phone/wallet/keys is enough for most non-school going-places I do, which isn’t a quantity of things that really should require a purse.)
Like you, though, I rarely pass up clothing just because of lack of pockets. My clothes shopping is almost entirely second-hand anyway, so it’s hard enough to find something that fits and is in decent condition and non-hideous and has tolerable fabric; adding a pocket criterion to that would just make it impossible to find anything.
I swear by belly bags (and have since before menarche). They solve the problems I have with other ways of carrying stuff around: easier to access than a backpack, easier to carry than a purse, larger and more detachable than pockets. (This list is outdated, but gives you an idea of the amount of gear I like to have with me. Not only is there no way I would fit all of that into even large pockets, I would have to move *all* of it *every* time I changed pants. Like hell am I doing that.) Also, they give you a supporting platform when you’re carrying bulky objects in your arms! I love belly bags so much. I usually wear mine even if I’m not going very far and don’t technically need any objects, because I feel naked leaving the house without it.
I have heard some rumours that belly bags ““look”” ““stupid””, but whatever. I like how I look, and anyway it’s not nearly a good enough reason to pass up something that’s been this useful to me. (And…like, I did not *deliberately* select my customary accessories to make me easily recognisable even by faceblind people, but I think I’ve ended up that way, and that’s kind of nice in a Golden Rule sort of way.)
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#reply via reblog #gender #clothing #I love my Useful Thing collection #even the foil blanket I have carried around for over a decade and literally never used #having it there Just In Case still comforts me #(and of course a lot of the stuff *has* come in handy)
A few years ago I was listening to Science for the People (as I used to do), and they had an interview with Jesse Bering about his then-recent book Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us. He was going on about how men’s sexualities are narrow and stable while women’s sexualities are broad and fluid, a spectrum with exclusive paraphiles at one end and @sinesalvatoremat the other.
And this felt really familiar, and at first I wasn’t sure why. And then I realised:
This was not the first time that I had been accused of having an extreme male brain.
I should start compiling a list of times I’m used as an example of an extreme version of a feminine mental trait, since it’s strangely frequent and cool.
I thought you might appreciate that. :)
Didn’t know it was strangely frequent, though.
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#and it’s interesting in a different way when *I* make a good example of a *masculine* trait #I used to know some people who would often point out #that any test of Real Womanhood *intended* to exclude trans women inevitably ends up excluding some cis women too #there are no places where you can draw a neat line #off the top of my head I can think of four Real Womanhood tests that I fail #(I’m autistic and paraphilic and non-dysmenorrheic and I never get catcalled) #((that last one especially feels like tempting fate to say it out loud)) #((but if I start getting catcalled tonight my past selves will still have been women)) #((so the point would remain)) #tag rambles #reply via reblog #gender
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